Goodbye Perfect Book Title

GOODBYE, Perfect by Homaira Kabir

Embrace your authentic expression and build the confidence to live an empowered and purpose-driven life.

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For fans of Brene Brown and lovers of inspiring self-help titles, Goodbye, Perfect is a must-read leadership and personal development book for women that offers a paradigm shift in our approach to self-improvement.

Grounded in science and filled with relatable stories, it is an uplifting and empowering read that will help you reclaim joy, ease and self-compassion as the building blocks of a successful and meaningful life.
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“Now, more than ever, the world needs empowered women. In Goodbye Perfect, Homaira Kabir brilliantly shares how to unshackle ourselves so we can show up fully, share our voices, and contribute our gifts for the betterment of all.” Marci Shimoff, #1 NY Times best-selling author, Happy for No Reason and Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul.

“Let go of the self-doubt and perfectionism that holds you back with Goodbye Perfect! Teaching actionable steps to break the toxic cycle, Homaira gives you the tools you need to focus energy on the most important aspects of your life and make the biggest impact.”
Dr. Marshall Goldsmith is the #1 Executive Coach and New York Times bestselling author of The Earned Life, Triggers and What Got You Here Won’t Get You There.

Goodbye Perfect Review by Dr. Marshall Goldsmith

“Now, more than ever, the world needs empowered women. In Goodbye Perfect, Homaira Kabir brilliantly shares how to unshackle ourselves so we can show up fully, share our voices, and contribute our gifts for the betterment of all.”

Marci Shimoff, #1 NY Times best-selling
author, Happy for No Reason and Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul.

Goodbye Perfect Review by Dr. Marshall Goldsmith

“Let go of the self-doubt and perfectionism that holds you back with Goodbye Perfect! Teaching actionable steps to break the toxic cycle, Homaira gives you the tools you need to focus energy on the most important aspects of your life and make the biggest impact.”

Dr. Marshall Goldsmith is the #1 Executive Coach and New York Times bestselling author of The Earned Life, Triggers and What Got You Here Won’t Get You There
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“If you're looking for a page-turning read on how to stop people-pleasing and start being proactive on behalf of your own best self, this book's for you. Read it and reap.”
Sam Horn, author of Tongue Fu! and SOMEDAY is Not a Day in the Week
“Why do we find it so difficult to let go of behaviors we KNOW are getting in our way? Goodbye Perfect will help you do so with a lot more ease, joy and success.”
Patrick J. McGinnis, creator of the term FOMO and author of Fear of Missing Out
“Goodbye Perfect is a science-backed approach that offers a paradigm shift in how to let go of perfection and other unhelpful behaviors. It shows why competence and success often build an unhealthy form of confidence, and how to build the kind of confidence that leads to upward spirals of growth and fulfillment.”
Dr. Itai Ivtzan, author of Second Wave Positive Psychology and Awareness is Freedom.
"In Goodbye Perfect, Homaira combines science soul to help women unleash their fullest potential. Read it to unlock a treasure full of wisdom, heart, and practical tools you can utilize immediately to improve your life."
Caroline Adams Miller, MAPP, TEDx speaker and Author of global bestsellers Creating Your Best Life, Getting Grit and My Name is Caroline
“How much energy would be freed up if women could say goodbye to perfecting and pleasing and hello to truly living? Probably enough to change the world. Goodbye Perfect will show you how.”
Laura Brandao, CEO Lighthouse Lending & partner EPM and best selling author, Say Yes Everyday
“Goodbye Perfect is primarily written for mid-career women who feel stuck, dissatisfied, or flawed. But the explanations and exercises could help all who want to experience more grace in life as they move toward the goals that matter most to them. The wisdom that Homaira Kabir distills from her own experiences and the experiences of her coaching clients shows how to move away from fragile confidence contingent on other people’s approval towards integrated confidence grounded on a firm belief in one’s own inner worth.”
Kathryn Britton, author of Sit Write Share: Practical Writing Strategies to Transform Your Experience into Content that Matters
“Homaira takes us on a scientific journey to understand what fragile confidence is and offers a framework for building optimal confidence. Good-bye Perfect is well researched, and the strategies are highly informed by Homaira's years of interacting with her coaching clients to offer insights that are practical and effective. If you want to stop playing small and hiding behind unhelpful behaviors, let Homaira be your guide through this paradigm shifting book on what it takes to flourish.”
Louisa Jewell, MAPP, Author of Wire Your Brain for Confidence, The Science of Conquering Self-Doubt and Founder of the Canadian Positive Psychology Association
“I wish I had this book when I was younger. I remember reading every article, book, and watching every video that I could find on gaining confidence. I wanted it so badly! This book has it all. It is easy to read, includes scientific evidence as well as specific ways to (as Homaira says) shed the “worrier” and become the “warrior”. It is a must read for all women that are looking to live a more meaningful, joyful life and to be who they REALLY are!!!!!!!!!”
Melissa Garson, M.Ed., MAPP Certified Life Coach, Speaker & Author of "The Recipe For Real Happiness- Four Simple Ingredients
"Homaira Kabir is the voice we need now to help women find their own voice. In Goodbye Perfect, she gifts us not only with her brilliance and passion, but with an actionable framework for self-confidence that women can implement- starting today.”
Sandra Joseph, Broadway star, author of Unmasking What Matters
"Goodbye Perfect combines scientific rigor and heartfelt passion to help women let go of the behaviors that get in the way of their joy and flourishing. Its powerful vision is to enable all of us to live authentic and purposeful lives."
Dorie Clark, Wall Street Journal bestselling author of The Long Game and executive education faculty, Duke University Fuqua School of Business
“Homaira’s deep wisdom, science-based knowledge and genuine passion for helping women in their personal and professional growth is evident on every page of this paradigm-shifting book.”
Gloria Feldt, Cofounder and President of Take The Lead, Best-selling Author of Intentioning, member of 2022 Forbes 50 over 50, and Glamour's "Woman of the Year".
“If something is holding you back from living the life you want to live and becoming the person you want to be, this is the book for you.”
Tiffany Sun, Chief Content Officer, Twill
"Well done Homaira Kabir! Goodbye Perfect outlines a step-by-step framework that will help any woman move from experiencing fragile confidence to possessing optimal confidence."
Lisa Martin, PCC, Bestselling Author of Briefcase Moms
“What incredible things could we accomplish if we only got that nasty voice out of our head and embraced our power and joy? In Goodbye Perfect, Homaira shows us how through evidence-based strategies and heartwarming stories that will change the way you relate to yourself, to others, and to your life.”
Maricella Herrera, CEO, Ellevate Network
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“If you're looking for a page-turning read on how to stop people-pleasing and start being proactive on behalf of your own best self, this book's for you. Read it and reap.”
Sam Horn, author of Tongue Fu! and SOMEDAY is Not a Day in the Week
“Why do we find it so difficult to let go of behaviors we KNOW are getting in our way? Goodbye Perfect will help you do so with a lot more ease, joy and success.”
Patrick J. McGinnis, creator of the term FOMO and author of Fear of Missing Out
“Goodbye Perfect is a science-backed approach that offers a paradigm shift in how to let go of perfection and other unhelpful behaviors. It shows why competence and success often build an unhealthy form of confidence, and how to build the kind of confidence that leads to upward spirals of growth and fulfillment.”
Dr. Itai Ivtzan, author of Second Wave Positive Psychology and Awareness is Freedom.
"In Goodbye Perfect, Homaira combines science soul to help women unleash their fullest potential. Read it to unlock a treasure full of wisdom, heart, and practical tools you can utilize immediately to improve your life."
Caroline Adams Miller, MAPP, TEDx speaker and Author of global bestsellers Creating Your Best Life, Getting Grit and My Name is Caroline
“How much energy would be freed up if women could say goodbye to perfecting and pleasing and hello to truly living? Probably enough to change the world. Goodbye Perfect will show you how.”
Laura Brandao, CEO Lighthouse Lending & partner EPM and best selling author, Say Yes Everyday
“I wish I had this book when I was younger. I remember reading every article, book, and watching every video that I could find on gaining confidence. I wanted it so badly! This book has it all. It is easy to read, includes scientific evidence as well as specific ways to (as Homaira says) shed the “worrier” and become the “warrior”. It is a must read for all women that are looking to live a more meaningful, joyful life and to be who they REALLY are!!!!!!!!!”
Melissa Garson, M.Ed., MAPP Certified Life Coach, Speaker & Author of "The Recipe For Real Happiness- Four Simple Ingredients
"Homaira Kabir is the voice we need now to help women find their own voice. In Goodbye Perfect, she gifts us not only with her brilliance and passion, but with an actionable framework for self-confidence that women can implement- starting today.”
Sandra Joseph, Broadway star, author of Unmasking What Matters
"Goodbye Perfect combines scientific rigor and heartfelt passion to help women let go of the behaviors that get in the way of their joy and flourishing. Its powerful vision is to enable all of us to live authentic and purposeful lives."
Dorie Clark, Wall Street Journal bestselling author of The Long Game and executive education faculty, Duke University Fuqua School of Business
“Homaira’s deep wisdom, science-based knowledge and genuine passion for helping women in their personal and professional growth is evident on every page of this paradigm-shifting book.”
Gloria Feldt, Cofounder and President of Take The Lead, Best-selling Author of Intentioning, member of 2022 Forbes 50 over 50, and Glamour's "Woman of the Year".
“If something is holding you back from living the life you want to live and becoming the person you want to be, this is the book for you.”
Tiffany Sun, Chief Content Officer, Twill
"Well done Homaira Kabir! Goodbye Perfect outlines a step-by-step framework that will help any woman move from experiencing fragile confidence to possessing optimal confidence."
Lisa Martin, PCC, Bestselling Author of Briefcase Moms
“What incredible things could we accomplish if we only got that nasty voice out of our head and embraced our power and joy? In Goodbye Perfect, Homaira shows us how through evidence-based strategies and heartwarming stories that will change the way you relate to yourself, to others, and to your life.”
Maricella Herrera, CEO, Ellevate Network
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about the author

Homaira Kabir is a women’s leadership development and wellbeing coach, author, speaker and champion for women’s flourishing. She is the founder of the Goodbye Perfect Project, dedicated to ending the “fix me” project and embracing our brilliance and brokenness as the ground of which we rise to our highest potential.

Her early experience with an eating disorder became the catalyst for her pursuit of inner freedom. She has a double Master’s degree in Positive Psychology and Coaching Psychology, and has done extensive postgraduate research on woman’s confidence and flourishing. Her work speaks to the longing in many of us to break through our inner shackles, and befriend the mess and paradox of our everyday lives.

Her unique ability to blend science and soul helps inspire what’s possible, while addressing some of the very real challenges of life through practical and evidence-based tools and strategies. Her writing is widely published in Forbes, Happify, ThriveGlobal, the Huffington Post, Positive Psychology News Daily and more. She has been called “inspirational”, “a beacon of hope”, and “a ray of sunshine in dark times”.

Homaira Kabir - Goodbye Perfect

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Q: Why is your book called Goodbye, Perfect?

A: I love this question! It’s called Goodbye, Perfect because the book is about saying goodbye to an identity and not a behavior, although the behaviors usually result from the identity. It’s about getting to the root cause and building an identity that reflects our true power. That’s the only way we can discern when certain behaviors serve us without being hooked by them. 

Q: How will the book help a reader? What is the main message of the book?

A: The journey of Goodbye, Perfect is a journey of growth and flourishing. It’s about embracing our authentic expression and living in alignment with who we are and what we value. This is not easy in a world that bombards us with expectations and rewards us for recreating ourselves in its image. Goodbye, Perfect will give readers the courage to do so, and to experience the fulfillment that comes with it.

Q: What is the role of confidence?

A: The funny thing is I never set out to study confidence when I did my postgraduate research. I set out to study women’s flourishing. But it became clear very early on that what gets in the way of women’s flourishing is a type of high confidence Fragile Confidence. It’s confidence that comes from achieving externally valued goals because of a deep sense of lack or unworthiness. Optimal confidence, on the other hand, does lead to flourishing. And so the book offers a science backed shift from fragile to optimal.

Q: Is this book for working women only?  

A: It’s for everyone who recognizes that without inner work, we cannot reach the highest levels of self-actualization. You see, life scars each one of us—and some more than others. We all have inner repair work to do; it’s the reality of our bio-psycho-social makeup as a human being. The journey in is always the journey up.