CONFIDENCE STRATEGY #1:

BE YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER​

When you do something you feel good about, it’s natural to look to others for praise. Who doesn’t like to be noticed and appreciated for what they do?

But here’s the thing: Unless YOU appreciate what you’ve done, you’re giving your power away to others.

For one, whatever they say won’t feel enough because you haven’t built the inner container to hold it. You’ll be hooked onto their praise and always fearing that you’ll be found out to be a fraud. The Imposter Syndrome is a direct consequence of the inability to celebrate our wins.

Secondly, workplaces are stressful and competitive environments. Other people don’t always have the time to notice or appreciate what you’ve done. Or they may be threatened—their appreciation won’t feel genuine, and that’s something we’re wired to pick up on.

And thirdly, and this is especially true for women in the workplace, unless YOU value what you’ve done, you won’t be able to talk about it without feeling obnoxious or immodest. And if you don’t talk about it, nobody will know, and you won’t be rewarded for your work.

The How

Step 1:

Think of something you
did today that you feel good about. 

Think of something you did today that you feel good about. It doesn’t have to be something big; in fact, if you’re an ambitious woman, your bar may be so high that nothing seems significant enough…

Think of the little things—maybe you helped a colleague who was struggling with her workload. Maybe you spoke at a meeting which wasn’t easy for you. Or maybe you listened to your child instead of hurrying them through their story.

Celebrate what you did with energy and excitement. The more energized you are, the more you help the feeling sink into the deeper stories and implicit beliefs you have about yourself.

Feel free to give yourself a high five, pat yourself on the back, or do a little victory dance! Or simply allow the feeling to settle in and smile at the thought of what it says about you.

Step 2:

Now complete this sentence

Now complete this sentence (or rephrase it in a way that feel natural to you):

“Doing ‘x’ makes me a ‘y’ kind of person”

For example: Speaking up at the meeting shows I’m courageous when something matters to me.

Step 3:

To build a habit of today’s strategy,

To build a habit of today’s strategy, print it out and put it up somewhere you see it often. Or download it to a folder on your laptop called “My Confidence Boosters” and make sure you revisit it regularly 😊

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